New Years resolutions freak the hell out of me… they’ve left a bit of a bad taste in my mouth after making them and then breaking them over the years. It’s like, “SHOOT… now what?” I mean, there’s nothing wrong with making a good ol’ fashioned commitment and keeping it… it’s just that if (or when) you break it the shame or recovery can be a little tricky-dicky.
OK, enough resolution-bashing… let’s get to the friggin’ point.
Over the past bunch of years I always choose a word for the year. I’ve even named my motorbikes after these words. I’ve chosen words like LEAN, SMOOTH, ALIGN… and all of these, for the years they represented, were a gentle and compassionate reminder to me for how I wanted to show up. How I wanted to be. WHO I wanted to be. And WHEN I was a little off track, my word was like a motherly whisper in my ear saying, “Hey Neek, remember your word? Ya, let’s get back to that. What do we need to do to honour that?”
The key here is that it’s GENTLE & COMPASSIONATE.
So, for this year (2024) I chose 2 words: INVITATION & FUERTE.
I love the word INVITATION because it holds no pressure or judgement. I believe life is a constant flow of invitations and I’ve come to peace with the understanding that there isn’t an exact path I have to follow… I have choice to follow a plethora of nudges and invitations. Some may lead to peace or joy or pain or heartache or breakups or even death… but there is always hope. I’m laughing because when I wrote “death” I meant witnessing death as opposed to dying yourself. Anyway…
And FUERTE is simply super fun to say… and it means “strong” in Spanish. I had to check that out though… because someone told me, “Um, I think that means ‘death’ in Spanish”… but thank God for Google. I want to be FUERTE this year emotionally, spiritually, and physically… especially after breaking my back last year.
So, there I am, texting my bestie and asking him what his word is for 2024 to which he replies, “I think I’ve got 3 words for the year…. no, wait, these aren’t for my year, they’re for my LIFE!”
This started me on a little mental adventure to ask myself, “What would my 3 LIFE WORDS BE?”
Alas, I landed on 3 that I ended up wood burning into a few cedar planks that I’ve hung in my kitchen. Front & centre. If I was a pirate or a sailor (I’m not sure why I went to pirate there) this would be on my flag. This is not only what I want the rest of the world to experience and see from / about me but this is what I want to look at and live everyday. A gentle, compassionate, motherly reminder to be GENEROUS, BRAVE, NO BULLSHIT… & do everything with love. If I die today I’d love to have these on my tombstone and how I’d like to be remembered.
What are your 3 LIFE WORDS?
If you dare take the challenge, I’d love to hear what they are… unless your word is PRIVATE or SCARED haha.
I actually do this exercise with clients as well so if you’d like some help coming up with your words for your life or year, I’d love to help you dream and dig into what would be an inspiring flag for your pirate ship.
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